Autism and Dating Has my son been interested in dating? Not yet. Not too long ago, I asked him if he was interested in anyone. He said, “No, for the most part.” I asked him to explain that last bit. He said that he had an interest in a girl for a “really little bit,” but didn’t act on it. He decided he wasn’t really all that interested. So, that was that. Any other experiences? One experience is that he does “like” a girl. I don’t think it’s gone past that, and I have no idea how she feels about my son. I have asked him about her and … [Read more...]

Autism’s Sneaky Trick (This post is not Halloween-themed) I sometimes get lulled into a sense of “normalness” with regards to my son. I forget. My son is very high functioning (yes, I’m using this term here). Now at age sixteen and a junior in high school, I’ve noticed myself beginning to take things for granted. “Can you feed the dog?” He does it. “Is your school bag packed?” Yep. He did it already. “Can you go to my car and get XXXX?” No problem.  “Can you get the mail for me when you’re done Razoring (on your scooter)?” He does this, … [Read more...]

Autism and the Game of Objectifying People My son was very excited for our month long vacation to the Mid-West and East Coast this past summer. He had several reasons: baseball games, train museums, visiting relatives and friends, going to his favorite place (Bromley Mountain in Vermont), and attending Super Smash Con in Virginia. My husband was with us for the first ten days, then it was my son and I for the rest of the trip. We put in a LOT of miles on our rental and stayed in a LOT of hotels (yet, also got great accommodations from family … [Read more...]

From One Autism Parent to Another I remembered an incident that happened not too long ago. It involved two autism parents and went like this… First, I was one of the autism parents. I was taking my son to an event at a small facility. The event was being run by another autism parent and also involved her own child. (Our kids had met when they both participated in a sport.) What happened at the event? The event itself was something that typically takes place with 20-30-year-olds, so both our kids were involved at a young-ish age. Nothing … [Read more...]

Autism and a Trip to Europe   I recently took a two week trip to Scotland. I had never been to Europe before. It was a really special trip, fun, relaxing, and great sights. I had been away without my child with autism before, but never for longer than a week. And, never in a country that’s eight hours ahead of us. A few times he had been quite young, but now that he’s older, he’s pretty self-sufficient in a lot of ways. He got himself to and home from school, took care of most of his schoolwork by himself (dad helped a little), and … [Read more...]

A Special Birthday for My Son with Autism   My son recently turned sixteen! A milestone birthday. I wanted this birthday to feel special to my son. It was a milestone after all. How did we celebrate this milestone birthday with our son? First, in lieu of having a big party, we had three close friends over to the house. My son played games with these friends and we all ate pizza and chips. This was done on a Friday, late afternoon to evening. Second, the next day (a Saturday), we had a family gathering at the home of my … [Read more...]

Autism and the Community How do our kids interact within the community? What about their neighborhood? I have read stories about neighborhoods that complain about a child with autism. A few of these stories report that neighbors even go so far as to pressure the family to leave. I have also read (way too many) stories about bullying people with autism. What is it about being in the community and people on the autism spectrum? Community interactions are never easy for our kids. They have a natural tendency to struggle with all … [Read more...]