Autism and a New Mother’s Day It’s new because it’s different than it used to be, but that’s okay. Change is a part of life, and my son is growing up, and it’s all about change at his age! What’s changing? When your child gets to be fifteen, things begin to change. There are frustrating, struggling moments, but there are sweet moments, too. Here’s a sweet moment… My son wanted to purchase a game he had on his computer before we had to get it wiped. The game was then lost. He recently asked me if it was okay to purchase the game again, … [Read more...]

Autism and Puberty My son is fifteen-years-old. Which means…he’s in the throes of puberty. What have been some of his issues? Many of these are common issues of any child (in this case a male child) going through puberty: *Dealing with growing facial hair. Learn how to shave. We bought him an electric razor and my husband gave him a lesson. He does it himself now. *Dealing with other hair. This became a bit of an issue when my son decided to try to shave his legs (the ankle part). I asked him why he did that and he said he just wanted to … [Read more...]

To Disclose Autism or Not?   What do strangers deserve to know? When was the first time we disclosed our son’s autism? Honestly, only one or two people knew about my son’s autism for the first, well, two years. Yep, that’s right. We kept it to ourselves. And, then we disclosed only to family. Then, years later, we disclosed…well, we disclosed when and if we felt like it, I guess. Why did we wait so long to tell (most) everyone? First, we were scared and didn’t know what was happening. Second, we decided to focus only our … [Read more...]

A Light Bulb Moment for Parent of Child with Autism I read this article the other day by a female adolescent with autism. I’ll post it below, because it was very revealing. What did it say? Well, this person with autism explained why she hates her parents. What? Hate is very strong word. Yet, when I read the article, I understood her point of view. Which was? She dearly loves her parents, but she struggles with their idea of her capabilities verses her very real need to download from the outside world in a safe place. She knows that … [Read more...]

Autism and the Long-Awaited Bullying at School Why did I create that particular title? Well, because I was convinced that something like this was going to happen to my child when he was in middle school. It didn’t. He’s now a freshman in high school. And, my son is being bullied. What is happening? This bullying has apparently been going on since October, according to my son. We didn’t find out about, however, until a week ago. Why not? Two reasons: First, our son was trying to handle this situation on his own. He told us that the … [Read more...]

Are Children with Autism Singled Out? – Part Two This is a follow-up to an incident that occurred at my child’s school a week ago. What was the incident? In a nutshell… My son attempted to charge his phone during a non-designed time in a math testing room. He was about to take a math test, and the co-teacher told him he could not plug in his phone. My son protested and got surly. But, then he complied. He put away his phone and began to take his math test.   In the middle of taking his test, the co-teacher interrupted him by handing him … [Read more...]

Are Children with Autism Singled Out?   Why do I ask this question? Because of what happened at my son’s school just this past Friday. Why is this past Friday important? Because this past Friday was only a few short days after the latest awful school tragedy, this one in Parkland, Florida. In this version a “weird” “outcast” “loner” nineteen-year-old ex-student walked into his old school and killed seventeen people. Last week, this latest school-related tragedy was on all of our minds. Including school officials and … [Read more...]