Autism and The Driving Age My son is almost sixteen. In California, a teenager who turns fifteen and a half can, technically, get a learners permit to drive a car. What about my son? He doesn’t have his learners permit. Not yet. What’s the plan? My husband and I discussed our plan for when our son could attempt to obtain a learners permit and eventually learn how to drive. We are not against it. We feel he could someday drive a car. Our plan is for our son to wait. We told him that he could attempt to get his drivers permit the summer … [Read more...]

Autism’s Sneaky Trick (This post is not Halloween-themed) I sometimes get lulled into a sense of “normalness” with regards to my son. I forget. My son is very high functioning (yes, I’m using this term here). Now at age sixteen and a junior in high school, I’ve noticed myself beginning to take things for granted. “Can you feed the dog?” He does it. “Is your school bag packed?” Yep. He did it already. “Can you go to my car and get XXXX?” No problem.  “Can you get the mail for me when you’re done Razoring (on your scooter)?” He does this, … [Read more...]

Autism and Too Much Stuff I recently read an article about a family with a child on the autism spectrum. The family purchased a lot of play structures for their front yard. They did this because they have a child on the autism spectrum. They discovered that their child benefits from movement. They purchased lots of play structures and placed them on their spacious front lawn. This, apparently, irked their neighbors. Why all the stuff on your lawn? they asked and demanded it be removed. An eyesore, they said. This got me the thinking about … [Read more...]

Household Chores and Autism I thought this was such a great perspective…And, it is only one perspective. This is a commentary from a young adult on the autism spectrum: “Neurotypicals who live with autistics, have you ever wondered why a sinkful of dishes just hangs out for days? Have you ever gotten irritated because unfolded laundry will stay that way for a week on the bottom stair landing? Have you scratched your head at the dust and dirt all over the kitchen floor that STILL hasn't been swept? You don't get it. There are chores to be … [Read more...]

Kimberly Kaplan and 300 Autism-Related Blogs I guess you can call this a toot-your-own-horn posting because this is my 300th blog! I have not only written 300 blogs for my own website but those same 300 blogs have also appeared on ModernMom.com. How did I start on ModernMom.com? Well…through a recreational softball team, of course. Huh? My husband ran a recreational softball team years ago in Santa Monica. At some point, he picked up a player who happened to live near the field. This player spent a week or two walking down to this field … [Read more...]

How an AutParent Handles Event Complaints My son attends gaming tournaments. He plays one game in particular, Super Smash Brothers Ultimate. Honestly, I don’t really know much about the game, nor do I have much interest in any video games. I can (sort of) watch one and (sort of) know what’s going on. I can follow when someone wins/loses. That’s about the extent of it. For the most part, when I take my son to these tournaments, I write. I actually get a lot of work done! Sometimes, when it’s been a few hours (these tournaments can go on for … [Read more...]

Autism and the Community How do our kids interact within the community? What about their neighborhood? I have read stories about neighborhoods that complain about a child with autism. A few of these stories report that neighbors even go so far as to pressure the family to leave. I have also read (way too many) stories about bullying people with autism. What is it about being in the community and people on the autism spectrum? Community interactions are never easy for our kids. They have a natural tendency to struggle with all … [Read more...]