When do you leave a party with an autistic child?
When is enough enough?
You’re at a party and you think your child has had enough. He or she just cannot hold it together anymore. You’ve tried everything, and because it’s pouring (or snowing) outside, you can’t take your child outside for a much needed break.
What do you do? What are signals? And, what if you don’t want to leave? What if you can’t, you’re a vital part of this party?
When do you leave a party with your autistic child?
First, you try all your distraction “tricks” you’ve brought with you. Books, stickers, DVDs, whatever it is you know that will calm your child and put him or her off to the side so you can enjoy the event a bit. A separate room, if the event has one and your child is old enough, would be ideal.
Our kids have trouble reacting to and/or functioning in social situations. They can only take so much and eventually need a break.
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How can you leave a party with an autistic child?
First, you may need to consider leaving. If you know your child well, that he or she struggles to get past an hour or 90 minutes or however long at a big event or family function, then leaving might be your only option.
Perhaps you thought ahead and took two vehicles so one of you could leave if/when your child needed to. If you don’t have two vehicles, let your child know you’re leaving in 20 minutes. That may buy you some time, and maybe even more than 20 minutes! You never know. Bargain with your child, if you’ll let us stay for 30 more minutes, I’ll play chess with you when we get home.
Second, you may want or need to stay.
Find a place to let your child decompress quietly and calmly to avoid a meltdown. Your goal is try to get your child through this event without disrupting the event.
But, keep in mind, our kids need these breaks. Your goal is to find ways to give them what they need.
I encourage you to go to events.
Don’t stay at home to avoid them. You have to overcome your fears that it’s “too much work” or your child cannot act “perfectly.”
The more you try it, the easier it gets.They won’t be able to get used to social situations if they don’t have exposure to them.
Plan ahead and try it.
They may surprise you and you may end up having a much-needed wonderful time out.